I (27F) have a pattern where I’ll meet a genuinely good guy, things will be going well, and then out of nowhere I lose interest over something so small or ghost him. Sometimes I feel like my standards are high or sometimes I am scared to really communicate my feelings when something bothers me. In the past when I’ve done this my ex’s have always turned it into an argument or made it seem like I’m just complaining.
But I’ve noticed once things start getting real or consistent, I pull away. I do want a relationship. I’ve been single for a few years now, I’m getting to that age where I would love a relationship that would lead to marriage & building a family.
Has anyone else experienced this? Is this avoidant attachment, fear of vulnerability, or something else? I actually want a relationship, so I don’t understand why I sabotage it. What can I do to fix this and just open up and really let people in?