I’ve been seeing this guy since mid Dec, we see each other pretty much once a week sometimes twice. I’ve been trying to read him, he’s definitely not as affectionate as my ex… but my ex was pretty much love bombing me and not a great example, so maybe I’m not the best at reading things (hence why I ask for advice here)
Sometimes he’ll say things that make me wonder if he’s controlling or annoyed by me? Or maybe it’s completely different than what I think it is.
We recently watched a movie at a theater and it was only a couple in there other than us. I was talking about the previews with a low voice when the couple wasn’t there and when they were. I’d like to think I was being respectful since I wasn’t talking in my regular voice, it was a low voice, also it was the previews.. he made a comment like “we aren’t the only people in the theater anymore”and lightly squeezed my thigh(maybe to not seem as intense), I told him it was just the previews (especially a boring ass commercial not even a preview for another movie.)
There has been another instance where maybe I’ve accidentally closed the doors in his apartment too loud (like the ones out to the main hallway and to the entrance of the apartment), but this maybe doesn’t read as controlling since whoops, I didn’t try to be loud I was just maybe too careless/didn’t realize the doors would slam, and he just tells me “you kinda slammed the door” but not in a mean tone
Maybe he’s just someone that gets on edge about trying to be respectful of his surroundings? & I am too but sometimes things happen.
Otherwise I don’t *think* he’s controlling??… especially when this part of his car, maybe called the trim, he loves so much kinda snaps when I open the door to get in, he never gets mad but I can’t tell, or maybe I worry he does it because I kinda annoy him?
Also I didn’t know the best flare to use…