I still don’t know why he ended things. I really liked him but I respected his choice or at least tried to.
I dated him for 3 weeks. On date 2 he told me he wasn’t talking to anyone else. So I spent the whole day with him on Valentine’s Day thinking he was serious about me.
I stayed over at his place and we agreed that we won’t have sex before hand. We started watching a show and he started touching me and we cuddled. We made out and then we started undressing each other. He kept stopping in the middle saying we are probably going to have sex so we should stop and I told him I’m good at maintaining boundaries.
He didn’t agree and he said he wants to try to be a good person so we stopped. He told me he was acting out of lust. I told him not doing anything doesn’t change the outcome for me. I still liked him.
Then before bed, I asked him if he still wants to still see me. A man has never turned me down sexually so I took his behaviour as a hint that he wasn’t interested. He said let’s talk about it tomorrow.
Next morning, I tried to leave at 7 am but he caught me. We talked a bit and he told me he just didn’t think we’d work out. He started saying things about me he knew from day 1 so I knew he was using it as excuses. He asked to be friends. I said no. Even when ending things, he was really nice to me.
I’m just confused. I don’t know why he asked to hang out on Valentine’s Day. We both wanted a long term relationship. It was only 3 weeks so he was still figuring things out but why lead me on by saying he’s not talking to anyone else.
From date 1, he told me his interaction with me felt special. He would remember small things I said. He would help me destress about some personal issues I was facing. I know 3 weeks is a short time but the potential was there.
I miss him but I’m not allowed to message him anymore. I really wish he hadn’t asked me to hang out on Valentine’s Day. My heart feels shattered. Any support is appreciated. He’s not a bad guy but he def lead me on.