I’ve been close friends with this girl for about four years. We met freshman year, then I transferred schools, but we still kept in touch through FaceTime and the occasional meetup. Quite a close friendship, we pretty much could talk about anything as well as romantic interests as well. I never really thought of anything romantically until last year. One meetup, I got really drunk and we ended up cuddling in the same bed. The next morning, she brought it up, but I dismissed it immediately cause feelings were unsure at that time and I was dealing with other women. After that, she pretty much ghosted for about a month and a half, but nothing seemed off when we finally talked.
After that getting her on the phone was a task. She’d pretty much take a week or so to get back to me and it was just a loop of me waiting for a call back. I took a step back, but she wanted to be involved in my graduation, we talked and saw each other, very normal just very spaced out communication. Around New Year’s, she mentioned an event in my city, but her friend was the one who actually gave me the info, so confusing situation. Later on she ignored my call for a week again, I stopped reaching out. About 2 months later, she called me randomly and I think she was drunk because said she’d call again the next day, but never did.
A week later she texted me about another event in my city and asked if I wanted to come with her and her friends. I said yes, a week later she told me they bought their tickets and I should get one if im up for it. Never bought because of assigned seating and etiquette. The week before she was coming , I decided to stop the childish shit and call her, she didn’t answer which did annoy me honestly. When she called back the next day, the conversation felt unnatural, like taking to a stranger so I hung up earlier than usual calls, before I hung up she said “that’s it?” I did tell her to update me about plans because I was supposed to go out with them and she did say she was excited to see me, but when she came to town, she didn’t reach out til 11 pm Saturday night after drinking to see if I’d be down to go out. I told her nah then she texted that she missed me with hella sad faces and that things hadn’t been planned well but really she just didn’t communicate shit.
It took her another month and a half to reach out again after ghosting (imo) me that weekend. I offered to call whenever she was free, and she texted excitedly, but she didn’t call for a week, apologized, and offered to call a week later. I told her “I won’t be” as I was going on a trip, after seeing my ig post she texted me I’m “ridiculous” for that message. Since then, it’s just been story likes and slide ups which I don’t really entertain.