I am white, my boyfriend is Chinese.
He is unfortunately in a position where his father is sick and going to pass away very soon. His mom is 52, Dad is late 60s for reference.
His mom very briefly mentioned about where she will live afterwards. It makes sense that she will move to begin with. She used to live in the same city as us, but moved to live a few hours away about 6 months ago as Dad retired.
She is talking about living with either us or her daughter who lives in East Asia. She seems more keen to live with the daughter from the little information I got about it all.
However daughter lives in abject poverty, wheras me and her son live relatively well for our area (and a lot better then her daughter to be blunt). Its also the logistics of citizenship, she had to give up that passport so she cant just move over like she thinks anymore)
I have a genuine fear that she will want to move in and live with us. Boyfriend won't want that either. We dont have the space for her, we rent. Its just not going to be possible.
She is an incredibly stubborn woman and will absolutely powerhouse her way in, and use grief against us. From what I understand its relatively common in his culture for aging family to move in as well.
I am very weak minded and want to nip this in the bud. How do I do this while still being nice as its obviously a horrible time for her with big changes going on.
Edit: BF doesn't want her moving in either. Like at all. I only brought up the cultural side of it, as its something she would expect to happen.