My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years.
We went to his friend’s wedding last weekend and there were conversations about an after party that I expressed privately to my bf I didn’t want to go to throughout the wedding.
But when the wedding ended, this one guy was trying to convince us to go to the after party and I kept saying no. He then grabbed my arm/body and pulled me towards the uber that was waiting and tried to shove me physically into the car. This hurt my arms and hurt my feet even more because I was wearing heels. He also tried to do the same thing to my boyfriend but in the end we were able to leave and go home. When this was happening I kept looking to my bf for help, to pull me out of this situation to say anything to this friend. But he did nothing. He stood there and watched it tried to hide from the guy so we wouldn’t he forced too.
This hurt me deeply for so many reasons, I was already skeptical of his friends who seem to can’t take “no” for an answer, or their way of bonding is alcohol and drinking, or having trust issues when it comes to my boyfriend and drinking (he’s not alcoholic he can control himself) but I grew up with a dad who was pretty nasty whenever he drank so I have my own reservations. And I’ve been a victims of dv/physical abuse in my last relationship and my bf knows that too.
I already told my bf how I felt afterwards and asked him to talk to his friend, which he did and the friend messaged me to apologize. But I’m not sure how to move on and learn to trust my bf to protect me again. Im not sure how someone who loves you can stand there and watch you be dragged and manhandled by his own friend and do nothing or even feel anger or protective.