I met a girl on a dating app at the end of December. We aligned on a lot of things, went on 7 consecutive dates in 2026 for 7 weeks. I went in her house on date 4 and met her parents, and her sister. Date 6 her mom ordered pizza for us and I met her brother, she’s 27 I’m 26. We aligned on wanting to put a big down payment for a house, getting married in the next few years, live in the area etc. She hasn’t had a boyfriend since 2017, and hasn’t had sex or been intimate since 2019. On the 5th date, she blew me, albeit it wasn’t the best. We kissed on the second date, but I was able to tell she was inexperienced. We texted everyday, and each date was at least 6 hours. The 6th date, she told me I’m perfect, wouldn’t change a thing, and even the better looking one in the relationship.
We agreed to take things slow. Her parents call a lot of the shots – her dad became financially successful, has a big house, purchased another house a few years ago and a very type a personality. For example, her and her sister surprise bought a dog a few years ago. Her dad was on a business trip and said “that dog better not be home when I’m back”. They ended up giving it to a friend. We went out on valentines and she said she wants to take things slow sexually because it’s under her parents roof and wants to take things slow in general and I agreed because we’re still getting to know each other. We went back to her house and finished a puzzle we started the week before. Her mom asked her why didn’t we finish it because she always finished puzzles quickly. She got nervous that she knew we were doing physical stuff. After we finished the puzzle and watched the movie, she asking if I want to wait til I’m 40 for kids. I said I never said that, I said 35 but happy to go a little younger if who I’m with is older. She said I want 3 kids, but I know you said you want 2. I said I’m good with 3. Then she said she wants a destination wedding in Italy that her dad would pay for. I said Im not Italian and not sure if my family would be down. She said well I want a destination wedding regardless, and I said we can do a honeymoon in Italy and she said she would never do that because she’s been so many times. Then she said her dad would want marriage to be discussed / on the table after a year because of her biological clock. He also wants grandchildren (she explained a story that every time they’re in the pool he says when are we going to have grandchildren running around here), and I said I’d want to date for a least 2 years.
After this I said where do you see this going and she said I see a lot of potential I said ‘same’ she said ‘yay.’ We made out for an hour, I left her house at 1230. I wasn’t going to see her for a few weeks because she was busy and she said we’ll plan something sooner, and to text when home. I heard a creak on the stairs and she said that must have been her mom. I got home at 1245 and texted her – it was the first time she didn’t respond that night. At 10 AM the next day she said she doesn’t feel a depper connection and I’ve been nothing but genuine person and wished me luck. It was a total whiplash of emotions to process. Thoughts or anything I can do different in the future? Kinda feeling bummed but also feel like a bullet dodged.