Hey everyone,
I’m at a point in my life where I feel stuck, and I wanted to put this out there to see if anyone else has been through something similar. I have a stable job—shift work, so it’s flexible—and I have a cheap rental that’s kept me going for years. Financially, I’m okay. I have hobbies I love, and on the surface, everything looks good. But inside, I just feel dead. I’m comfortable, but I’m stagnating—doing the same things, in the same place, and I’m not sure where to go next.
I’ve been thinking about a couple of options. I could switch my schedule at work to a normal routine—something that would give me a social life, but I’d take about a 40% pay cut. I’m also considering buying a place—I think owning could give me a stable environment, so I wouldn’t have to keep moving all the time. But the catch is, either way—buying or moving—this would mean a huge pay increase, and I’d be tied even more to this position—like, I’d be stuck. I’d be paying about 40% more, so if I made a move, I’d be struggling financially if it didn’t work out. And I also have a bit of a pricey lifestyle—my hobbies like guitar and motorcycle riding, they cost money, so I’m tied to these material pursuits as well.
On top of all this, I’ve been looking at a whole bunch of other things—new endeavors, education, other hobbies, other goals. I have lists I go through, and it’s honestly overwhelming. I can’t comprehend what to tackle next—whether to dive into something new or set some of these things aside. I think there’s a bit of an ego thing going on, because my prior hobbies are a big part of me. But also, I’ve always wanted to travel, and I have really high fear and anxiety around that. That’s been on my mind a lot as well. Honestly, the whole combination is just so challenging. I keep asking myself—am I doing too much? Am I not focusing on the right things? I just don’t know.
If anyone has been through something like this—too many options, too many paths—I’d love to hear how you navigated it. What helped you figure out what was right, or how you took those next steps?
Thanks so much for reading.