I (33M) have been seeing my girlfriend (28F) for 4 months now. We got into a big argument last night, would love advice or insight.
Things are great most of the time. We hang out 4-5 times a week, have fun with each other, try to be good about communicating things. We still have not had sex.
We will cuddle and watch movies. Kiss, hold hands, all that. That is the bulk of it. About a month ago, I was trying to lightly initiate sex, and she pushed away. I told her what I was feeling, and how it didn’t seem like she was interested in me. She froze up. The next day she apologized, said she understood everything I was feeling and it was great.
Since then, we’ve done “other things”, but still no sex. It’s a step forward. But last night as things were getting heated, she told me no to sex again. Cool, all good. But I had to ask why.
This is where idk if I crossed a line, because she exploded. I asked if it’s cause she didn’t trust me, asked if she was waiting for something like marriage. It got heated, she said all guys are only after one thing, and that I shouldn’t expect it, and stormed out.
She’s made it very clear this is a sensitive subject for her. I just don’t know if this was too much pressure, or if it’s a reasonable ask.