I(F25) matched with this guy (M23) on an app. He invited me out the very next day, but we both couldn’t make it. What’s more, I am not keen on going on dates with I haven’t properly talked to and got to know at least a bit beforehand. Then, he went away for some time and we texted for 3 weeks. He was very eager, even overly so, messaging 24/7 and asking where I was when I didn’t respond in 20 minutes. He told me everything about his family, friends, exes etc., called me pet names, always messaged first. Said he missed me when I didn’t respond for 1.5-2 hours. When we finally met, it felt as if I had know him for ages. He said he had been afraid I wouldn’t like him. He even adjusted his looks to my taste (I never asked him to).
As of now, we have been on 4 dates. I must admit we slept together — 4th date, a month after we matched. But now he is getting a bit distant. I know he is busy as he works a lot, he has just moved flats and had friends’ and family events to attend he had been preparing for for ages. Still, there are lots of things about him that I find fishy. When we started talking, he admitted he looked absolutely different from his app pictures (hairstyle and facial hair; has changed since then). His overeagerness seemed like lovebombing, he would tell me he was crazy over me all the time, on our 3rd date he even said he wanted me to meet his mother. Then, he says things he never lives up to. He tells me he will not make it through 2 days without seeing me; he oh so does. The mother talk — never got back to it again. Said he thought about me 24/7, more often than he did about his mother — now takes 2-3 hours to respond. Hasn’t suggested meeting since the previous time. Most importantly — he told me he had matched with another girl around the time he matched with me (I found him saying this terrible in itself) and said she called him manipulative for trying to get too close too fast.
I am not in love with him, but I did get quite used to him and his change of behaviour does affect my self-esteem. Is it sensible to cut ties altogether? Shall I try talking it through or just slow fade (I never message him first though)? I have always found his overeagerness strange and realized he was probably lovebombing, but it felt refreshing after a series of ghosters and emotionally unavailable guys, and the sex was fantastic. Am I right in thinking that I will be better off saying bye to him now before I get too involved?