Went on a couple of dates with this guy (31M) who travels to my country every few months for work. Told me he’s single and hasn’t been in a serious relationship for the last 3 years. Dates were good, wholesome, hours of chat and sweet holding hands etc. I even brought him out with my friends for hiking etc. I didn’t sleep with him as my own boundary is that I don’t sleep with anyone until we’re exclusive – made that clear to him and he was perfectly respectful. When he eventually flew off, we (surprisingly) stayed very much in contact for weeks and were texting back/forth with increasing hints at meeting more often, for example he was going to ask for an earlier business trip to come back sooner. Anyway, long story short I found out thru the powers of social media that he’s married, in fact, newly married just a few months back. I called him out on it and cut him off immediately. Now I’m considering telling his poor wife. On one hand, we didn’t sleep together so maybe I shouldn’t say anything. On the other hand, as a woman I would want to know.
Do I tell her? If I slept with him it’d be a no brainer but bcos we didn’t I don’t want to blow up a life unnecessarily. Maybe he will learn from this and never do it again? 😭
Also if I do tell her, how do I do that? I note that on IG I can’t attach images to a non-follower so I can’t even send her the screenshots. Anyone have experience with this?