For myself, there were different pockets in my life where I thought I was below average looking, but that was just due to severe low self-esteem in my college days. Afterwards, well into my 20s I knew in my heart that I wasn’t a typical black man who like sports and muscular. But I knew how to hold a conversation and be engaging. Me having these underlying traits improved my dating life well after the end of my 20s then it has ever done me any good through high school in college.