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Went to check my mailbox for the off-chance there was some secret admirer sending me a cute Valentine’s card. No such thing, but I did find a fine for speeding in there. Only went a few km/h over the limit. I dunno, it feels to me those law officers only like me for my money.
(Also: u/spicysenpai6, happy birthday dude. Have a good one.)
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Today I’m going on my first IRL date with a guy I met a month ago. He’s flying in 5.5 hours just for the date š and he planned it 3 weeks ago!
Of course I posed right when the other thread expired…
Am I being unreasonable here?
When I met my exwife I knew within seconds of seeing her I wanted to meet her and within the hour of us taking that I wanted to date her. The first woman I dated post divorce I knew from her profile I wanted to meet her and within minutes I wanted to date her. Anyone who didn’t fit that “instant” that I’d maybe wait and see never felt good/right. Which sucks because I can then go to an event and scan the room, just kind of float for a bit, and I’ll know if “she” is there and if she isn’t then now I get to small talk for the next however long without much excitement (though I obviously hide that). It’s not that rare of a feeling (I have a gym crush and a coworker who both invoke it) but I don’t know if it’s unreasonable to expect it.
To some replies from the other thread: I don’t think it’s for a particular quality. My ex-wife was very selfish as her main flaw and the only woman I really dated after that and I ended up just not being lifestyle compatible. My marriage relationship lasted a decade and I’d say 7 or 8 of those years were unbelievably solid so I don’t think this is your therapist “anxiety” feeling.
I’m having a few pints with a friend later today. He’s in a relationship but they actively dislike v-day as a concept, so it works out in my favour.
I had a few early things going a week ago, and I feel like they all died out. I’m not giving up on them, but I’m also not holding onto hope. Back to pushing that boulder up the hill.
Happy Valentines day! I’m not one to celebrate hallmark holidays and I was kinda worried that my boyfriend would want to…. But we’re on the exact same page!
We were talking the other day about holidays like this and the expectations of gifts and stuff. I said that I think it’s all kinda ridiculous and he agreed š
He’s just gonna come over for the weekend and we’re gonna have some drinks and a movie marathon and not even bother going out or doing anything special….
I love him so damn much lol.
For those who are in a relationship this Valentineās Day, but not a year ago, did you change something? Did you try meeting people in different places? Get in shape? Feel like it is just luck?
Note to self: I will never let a guy in my apartment on the second date again because that’s how they got into your pants. First date was solid as it was in a restaurant up in the hills. But once they asked to come over for the second date, and the sex happened, everything went south from there. No more chivalry, no more thoughtful conversations, it was all making leud jokes and being stupid and acting nonsensical to your common questions. No matter how successful you are, your true color came out once I have put my guards down. It was on me for being so foolish. Let this be the last time I be subject to this behavior before my 34th birthday. And once I make my first paycheck in 5 months time, the tables will turn!
Had a nice date last night. Good drinks and a really nice (and refreshing) mix of light and heavy conversation. Kept it pretty short at 2.5hrs (wait, is this actually short?) and then walked her to her car. She said “ok, we’re here,” walked straight up to me and gave me a good hug and jokingly apologized for being a slow burner that doesn’t kiss on first dates. Cute.
We’re a really bizarre mix of excellent shared dispositional qualities and very different life choices / styles. Unsure if it’ll mix well, but she wants to see each other again sooner rather than later, so I guess we’ll see? She owns a house out in the ‘burbs and I’m a city boy, which is a minor logistical nightmare that I’ve always avoided like the plague. The things you do for drop dead gorgeous people that have a delightfully bleak sense of humor.
Happy Valentines, everyone š„³. My Tinder reboot hasn’t been going great, since starting in December, I had exactly 6 matches and only 2 that actually replied, including 1 from earlier yesterday. She’s a real person and we had a nice chat, but turns out she’s in fact in Sweden. Great. When I last tried it a few years ago, I’d get a match every day or two. I’m still short and bald so that can’t be it.
Regardless, it wouldn’t hurt to get some feedback on the photos. Right now I think I have the first 7 of these included. Most I think are pretty decent, but I swear every single recent social photo is awkward or I have my eyes closed or not looking into the camera or it’s blurry as hell.
I also read some guy saying that a shirtless photo actually significantly raised the match rate so why not try that. Turns out I have zero beach/pool photos (and I’d really need to lose some more fat around the belly) but maybe the guitar is a good enough compromise, plus shows off a hobby: [https://imgur.com/a/bdCP9wp](https://imgur.com/a/bdCP9wp)
Single on Valentineās Day and DEEP in my luteal phase š¤Ŗšš¤Ŗ
Iām still super sad about the guy who dumped me a week ago due to ānot being over his ex and needing more time before datingā. We both have a 4 day weekend this week and had planned on spending it together. I want so badly to talk to him but I know Iāll just get some half baked response
Happy Valentine’s Day! My boo is working tonight, but we have a special date planned for next weekend, and I’ll be going over this afternoon to see her before her shift and surprise her with flowers. We marked nine months yesterday and I don’t think I could be happier.
I have to send a rejection text to Greek guy. This is gonna suck, because the dude is borderline infatuated with me. And also because it’s Valentine’s Day. Ugh. Might need to pause my Hinge account for a bit.