I (24F) met a guy(29M) on Tinder about three weeks ago. We’ve been chatting consistently and have gone on two dates. The vibe in person was good — conversation flowed, and I felt there was mutual interest. I was pretty open about liking him and focused my attention on just him during this time.
A few days ago, something shifted. I sent him a message late at night, and he didn’t reply until around 10am the next morning. Later that same day, I replied, and he took about 10 hours to respond again.
That change in communication bothered me. It felt inconsistent with how we had been talking before, especially since I had been putting in steady effort. After that day, I stopped initiating conversation. He then started messaging me on his own — about twice a day for the next three days. Meanwhile, Valentine’s Day was approaching and he never asked me out. Instead he asked for a date on the week after.
Eventually I brought it up directly. I told him he’s the only guy I’m seeing and I felt like I might be getting strung along and we’re putting in uneven efforts. He said he had been busy with work meetings for three days and didn’t mean to seem distant. He insisted he’s genuinely interested in me, isn’t seeing anyone else, and asked for another chance, saying he realized he should express his feelings more clearly before losing the opportunity.
I’m trying to figure out whether this is just a mismatch in communication style and timing, or an early warning sign about uneven investment. How would you interpret this situation?
TL;DR: Met a guy on Tinder, talked for 3 weeks and went on 2 good dates. I was investing pretty consistently, then he suddenly took 10+ hours to reply and asked me out skipping Valentine’s Day. I brought it up — he said he was busy with work meetings, insists he likes me, and asked for another chance. I’m unsure if this is just a communication mismatch or an early sign of uneven interest.