hey all, i’ve (39f) recently started dating a super sweet guy (47m). we’ve been dating for about 3 months, and have just made it *official*
things have been moving at a rapid, intense pace, yet a few things stand out to me as question marks. 1.) he doesn‘t seem too interested in my life/life, though he has shared that he’s bad at asking curious questions. we’ve talked ab this and he’s gotten better (ya!), but he generally seems to feel content to be uninterested/not expressing his interest in the world around him. it can be quite boring at times. 2.) he’s 47 and getting out of a 20 year relationship – about a year and a half out, and hasn’t dated much since then. he seems out of touch? 3.) he likes to poke fun at me! he’s playful, but sometimes it’s like…uh…wtf dude. you’re 47. being poked out is not a love language of mine and i’ve expressed this much.
and 4.) he sexts me regularly. not a bad thing!! he’ll share these long, imaginative and beautiful scenarios that are loving and hot and it’s hot. but, otherwise, he texts one word answers and paired with the other three observations, it has me feeling more objectified than i’d like to feel – or that our relationship lands more in a superficial space than a deeply connected one.
he has shared that he sees a life with me, but i haven’t been feeling the same way.
the title of this post may be a little misleading, but i'm curious if folks have any insight or support to offer around whether this relationship sounds like it has potential. i’m not sure if curiosity and connection can build over time or if this is the vibe of the relationship to come.