We’re both 28-30, 2 cats, no kids, and rent a home. We’ve been together going on 4 years. Dead bedroom for 1-2 years now (mostly from me to be honest). She’s had shitty back to back jobs with no free time, we’ve chalked it up to being stressed and having no time together and keep saying one day we’ll fix it. At this point, we’ll get in a fight sober seemingly random things that bring us both to the brink. We’re in therapy, it feels like we’re both just pretending at this point waiting for permission to leave. We moved to a new state together and have really no friends here or back home.
Anyways, when we aren’t in a random fight things feel fine, we love hanging out. Just no spark anymore, and when those fights come up she lets me know that she’s always feeling the same hurt. Neither one of us can answer what we love about the other person. Feels like grabbing at sand.
So, anybody else ever been here?
Edit: I’m reading everybody’s comments and I appreciate it guys. Sorry for not responding individually yet