So I’m the “detective friend”, you want to know whose photos he’s been liking etc I got you! However, this is “ruining” my own relationships in the sense that I find out things that ruin the relationship! Example : one of my exes went on vacation, I had this gut feeling.. so I went through his instagram followers and I found the girl he went with, despite none of them posting photos together, but their stories mirrored each other, rental car, hotel room, dinner etc. I messaged her and she confirmed and sent me photos.
My most recent ex, I have found some stuff as well… him liking thirst photos, leaving comments on some. I once asked him about a girl and now I see they unfollowed each other.
The problem is this, once I get a bad gut feeling, I go looking and then find answers that break my heart. And when I start, I’m so fixated on it.. I’m not invading privacy like checking his phone etc .. it’s all open info. Today a friend said to me “don’t go looking for answers you’re not prepared to handle”..
Is this a bad habit? Going forward-do you recommend I don’t follow my partner on social media?