I (20F) am in a newly founded relationship with this guy (22M). We have been seeing each other since August 2025 and didn’t start dating till January 2026. We have been friends for over 7 years now, previously dating in middle school (we don’t count that), and recently reconnected to which we decided to take things slow as we both just got out of long term relationships with the past year.
We get to see each other (if lucky) once or twice a week as we have conflicting schedules with work, school, and family life, so when we do see each other we have sex. This past week we had the opportunity to see each other everyday so naturally (as i thought) during this time spent together we had sex everyday. I had been the one initiating it all except for one time. I don’t know what it is, but i can’t get enough and he turns me on without even doing anything. I would arguably say it’s the best sex i have ever had and I ideally would do it multiple times a day. He has expressed this towards me too and at first was always the one initiating it.
Come to find out when it’s time to leave and go home after spending several days together i go to initiate having sex and i get turned down. Nothing is wrong with that and i don’t think since we’re in a relationship that i’m entitled to sex, but it’s what he said that made me feel somewhat insecure. Long story short he hit a few point along the lines of “We have too much sex, I don’t think it’s normal, I feel like that’s all you care about/ want from me, it’s the only thing you think about, and i want to do other activities than just sex”
I really didn’t think i was asking much or that it was not normal for our age to have this drive. I have never been in a relationship where i wanted it more than the guy so this is all new to me. I want to make it clear that we don’t only hang out at the house and have sex, we go to the movies, sports games, workout, hikes, dinner, drinks, bowling, and we actually do a lot more activities than i did in other relationships I’ve been in, but whenever we get back we always end the night with sex. I make sure to not make our relationship sex based, but him saying that’s all i cared about really surprised me.
I guess i’m wondering if this is normal? Am i asking for too much? I typically have a low libido but something about him i can’t get enough of and our sexual chemistry is not like anything I’ve experienced. I would say the same for him as well, as he has expressed to me in the beginning when he was the one initiating it.
Any advice? Am i being too much? What can i do about this? I can’t be in a relationship where we aren’t having sex at least twice a week as it is that important to me. I just never have been in this position and with our relationship being so new i am very worried for the future as I feel like in the beginning that’s when it’s at it’s peak