Hello everyone!
Last year, I began dating my current boyfriend who I’ve known since junior year of highschool. We lost contact after graduation in 2023 but reconnected in late 2024, hit it off immediately, and began a very intense relationship. At the beginning of our relationship, my boyfriend was very forward with gifts, money, extravagant trips, and unlimited love and affection. I had never had a boyfriend and was very taken aback by his generosity and kindness, and I thought this was just the kind of person he was. The gift-giving, trips, and constant affection was a constant for about 6 months, until it wasn’t. Eventually, parts of the relationship slowly started to die off.
It started off as him expressing to me that he was low on funds and couldn’t finance big trips anymore. I understood, knowing he had recently started a new job and was adjusting. I didn’t say anything about it, and our relationship continued on. However, as the months progressed, other things began to change. He stopped giving me money and gifts, still claiming it was due to a lack of funds, but I didn’t understand because he had bought himself a car in that same time period. I brushed it off again until recently. Ever since about November, we have not been on a single date. He has seen me consistently, but it’s always at MY house in MY bed, and usually ends in sex which I don’t enjoy.
I expressed to him that I’m okay with hanging out at my house at times, but that I would also enjoy doing something fun on a weekend since I know he works during the week. Upon telling him this he became very angry, saying that he doesn’t know what else there is to do (we live in a small town) and that I should be happy he comes out at night to be with me in my room. He told me he doesn’t like to go into restaurants because he’s afraid he’ll see people he knows, and that he doesn’t like to walk around in stores or go shopping. I know that isn’t partly true because he used to be happy to take me to dinner and shopping, so I don’t understand where this is coming from randomly a year later. It frustrates me because I enjoy being with him obviously, but I don’t want to sit in my bed with him for every single hangout. We never resolved the situation and I am wondering if I overstepped because he is treating me really strangely now.
Do I continue pressing the matter or do I just drop it? I don’t want to be a burden and pressure someone into something they don’t want to do.