TL;DR: My husband refuses sex because he fears pregnancy he’s extremely anxious about it since contraception isn’t 100% effective and has become almost paranoid about the risk. I said I wouldn’t get an abortion if I got pregnant. He says that would ruin our lives and that he would resent me and the child. I feel extremely distressed and don’t know what to do.
If I get pregnant, I will kill myself. My husband said he doesn’t even want to have sex with me because he’s afraid I could get pregnant, since contraception is never 100% effective. All of this started because I said that I would not have an abortion if I found out I was pregnant. He thinks that’s completely irresponsible and childish. He said he wouldn’t leave me in that case, but he wouldn’t want the child and would hate me because, in his opinion, I would ruin everyone’s lives with that decision.