I have a date tonight. I (40M) have a first date with a very sweet 37F. We matched on an app on Monday. We had a three hour phone conversation Monday, a two hour convo Tuesday and have been in consistent and constant communication through the week. We are meeting tonight!
I like her a lot and am looking forward to going on the date but (and this happens a lot) a few hours before hand, I usually feel like I just don’t want to go. It all just seems like SO MUCH. So much pressure. Maybe I’m putting pressure on myself? I worry about expectations- do I try to kiss? Not try to kiss? What if we have had great convos before meeting but once we meet it falls flat? It sounds like I’m overthinking and maybe I am.
Has anyone experienced this? You’re gearing up for a date and it just seems like too much and you just don’t even wanna go and would rather just sit on your couch instead? I really want connection, I want a partner. It’s just – I don’t know. It’s overwhelming sometimes what we need to go through just to find one. I feel defeated.