I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 22. We’ve been together for about two months.
From the start, our relationship has felt very natural and easy. We share similar values and interests, get along really well, and genuinely enjoy spending time together. I often stay at his place, and overall everything in the relationship feels healthy and good.
However, early on he told me that in about a year he plans to move away and start a new life. At the time, I agreed to continue the relationship because I thought there was a possibility we could start that new life together, and I was open to the idea of moving with him.
Today we talked about this again, and he was very clear. He said he loves me and wants to spend as much time together as possible right now, but he has already decided to move away alone and does not plan to change that decision.
This has left me feeling really conflicted. Part of me feels like I’m staying in a relationship that already has an expiration date, and that scares me. I don’t know if I’m protecting myself by considering ending things now, or if I’m self-sabotaging something good by walking away too early.
I care about him and I enjoy being with him, but I’m afraid that the longer I stay, the more attached I’ll become and the harder it will be later.
I’d really appreciate any advice or outside perspective on how to approach this situation or what I should be thinking about moving forward.
TL;DR:
I (19F) have been dating my boyfriend (22M) for two months. He plans to move away alone in about a year and doesn’t see a future together long-term, even though he says he loves me and wants to keep seeing me for now. I’m unsure whether to stay or end the relationship before getting more attached.