I hope this is the sub for this, sorry if not. He's hispanic and I'm obviously white btw. I'm very privileged and lucky to have everything I do, but I try to not let that influence my opinions or how I treat people. I'm going to try my hardest not to get political on here but that's what the whole conversation was about, I'm sorry again. Somehow we got on the topic of ICE and how they're harmful, and he says something to the effect of, "I don't like ICE but I agree with them deporting illegals." So that got him started on how POC crying about being oppressed, need to stop having a victim complex and just work harder. Also that white people aren't actually more privileged. He based it on his grandparents coming here as legal imagrants that built themselves up to be successful, which his family is very much so. I was astounded and thought that was insane and told him the problems with that along with other things. And suddenly, he pauses and says, "you have a white savior complex", and when I just sit there with a blank expression he busted out laughing. I hung up and he calls me back with a "did I upset you?". Later after we already said "I'm right, you're wrong, and that's ok", I asked if he really meant it. First he refused to tell me because we already left the argument alone, but I wanted to know if that's actually what he thought of me. After I begged him to just tell me he goes, "No, just a lot of your opinions line up with one." Then he, with no further questions dispite "not wanting to start this again", goes on about why he thinks that, and once I wanted to respond he says he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. I feel like I'm genuinely going insane bc I have no right to tell him about his own experiences but I see what's going on in the world. Do I actually have a WSC for this? If so, I want to fix it, but I thought I was being genuinely outraged for people, I'm not sure anymore.