My gf is scared of a false accusation made of me a few years ago
Hey guys,
A few years ago I (m28) was in the phase of sleeping around. Long story short, this girl really liked me and I didn't like her back and we did a few sexual acts together (I shouldn't have knowing that she liked me) and I told her that i didn't want to have a relationship. (We never had intercourse).
I should have been clear from the start to be honest and I feel guilty for leading her on. It wasn't right whatsoever.
Issue is that her friendship group have also accused 3 others of the same thing (rape) and text proof went around saying that they did it to "destroy his life".
Anyways, my gf (26f) says she trusts me but is scared that it's true. Which is completely valid.
How do i go about this and make her feel safe and comfy? We've been together 3 years and she's scared to commit. She's quite religious and is scared to move forward with marriage which is understandable. Im currently focusing on just being consistent with who I am and have been since Ive been with her. She's my first long term relationship, we both are each other's firsts when it comes to that.
She also was raped when she was in her teens as well by a guy in uni.
So how can I help her feel safe and heard? But also help her with these thoughts that pop into her mind? We are also both seeing a therapist together too due to this. She is so sure of marrying me but then these doubts of the accusation (rape) goes into her mind and ruins everything.
Thanks for the help in advanced!