I’m curious about why people choose to ghost. So ideally I’m hoping for people that did ghost to weigh in. I’m fine with people that were ghosted to give their own insights.
I’m pretty much trying to make sense out of two separate situations in which my date ghosted me.
First example: *both of us are AuDHD, we had a date, we chatted a while before and got on well, (no red flags and it seemed like a good date) we said we could even be friends if it didn’t work out. We met up, the date was going pretty well. At the end of the date when we said goodbye, she rushed forward and gave me a hug ~ which I thought was a good sign and kinda surprisingly sweet too. I messaged her after the date to tell her I had a really nice time… no reply at all and she just blanked me. Brick wall.*
Second example: *same situation to the first date. Met on Tinder, both of us have AuDHD and similar outlooks. We met up, had a nice time. It was more like a friendly meet-up than a date. She brought up some kinda intense personal topics. I made sure she was comfortable talking about it. It was going really okay! Like I think we were friends and we both got along pretty well. Similar personalities in some ways. End of the date she walked me back a little way to check I didn’t get lost ~ again, we parted in good terms and it felt like even if we wouldn’t date, we’d still be friendly like we had been. Ghosted. No response. Not even opening my messages for three weeks or anything.*
The weird part is that they didn’t block me. Like I had them on WhatsApp and Instagram etc and it felt like silence and being ignored. If they removed me as a “friend” or blocked me, that might at least be a form of confirmation they wanted nothing more to happen between us.
**I’m *really* not seeking to unpack, or speculate on why I was ghosted specifically. The only sense I can make out of it was they were *both* somewhat avoidant and thought it easier or kinder to just ignore me. Other than that I have no clue or ideas. So I don’t want to guess too much**
So I’m kinda looking for some kind of non-judgmental insight into this; why did you ghost?