Hey all. So i(39M) was talking to a woman I met on match and we were texting getting to know each other better and about a week ago or so she sends me this exact text.
"I’m going to be honest with you the number that I had messaged you before was a guy I was talking to before……he was a Narcassist 😫he mirrored me so well……I thought he was my soul mate…I do have trust issues being blunt with you I caught on to his game and he is given me the silent treatment……I blocked his number though.We can remain friends 🙏🏽didn’t want to lead you on by any means I am trauma bonded to him unfortunately"
Yeah, my thoughts exactly.
Now, ignoring all of that, since she gave me the "We can remain friends" I knew this was the international death nail in this possible relationship so I said "ok, i wish you well" and figured that will be that. Full disclosure, I wasnt sure about if we were going to be compatible so this ironically made the decision easier.
Now, fast forward to tonight, she texts me out of the blue saying "hey, how are you doing?" This surprised the fuck out of me. She was actually sincere. The problem was…….I got friends already and Im not on match to find friends. Besides, I tried to be friends with my ex girlfriend after we broke up and that went over like a lead balloon. Anyway, while I admittedly felt guilty because I truly appreciated the fact she was sincere, I texted her saying essentially I appreciate the fact that you were sincere about wanting to be friends…I got friends already. I wish you luck finding a better match. She understood and that was that.
Anyway, I dont usually post these kind of stories, but I wanted to write it somewhere where I figured it would be appreicated. Thanks for listening.