I’ve never asked a question on reddit before so excuse me if I do this wrong LOL…
so i’m 20F, i’ve always been told to be with nice boys from good families who work hard, and I do. However I feel like even those men don’t value me?
I feel like men don’t respect me.. why do I get treated like shit? Is it the way I carry myself ? Do i only put myself in bad situations with men to feel something negative that I crave subconsciously ? I’m very lost..
I don’t pick the best guys always, however I have been in relationships with nice guys but somehow always feel undervalued or used.. i’m confused, I don’t understand. What could make a guy just see me as sex ? even when I hold out and get to know them first I get used for sex? how the actual fuck does that work… I definitely have a problem with oversharing which might scare someone off, but why not just leave instead of hurting me? I think i’m a pretty kind person, and I care a lot about my friends, family, and relationships so I feel lost when I get shit on by someone I care about..
I’ve always thought of sex as a way to get close to someone. when i first started having sex it was very loving and passionate, now I use it as a tool..If I can give him what he wants maybe he will stay with me and protect me. when i’m sad about something especially if someone hurts my feelings, my mind immediately goes to having sex with someone to make me feel valued again, it never works.. it’s a vicious cycle. i’ve had sex with 10 people and only 2 worked out…
I feel like i might just be to damaged and people can see it, making it easy for them to use me..I have so much love to give yet i drain it for meaningless flings.. I don’t understand, in my mind i see a new potential boyfriend but to them they don’t see me as a girlfriend.. I’ve never cheated on a partner or even a talking stage, so i don’t understand what could be this huge red flag?
Can someone please give me advice because i’m starting to think there’s something seriously wrong with me that i just don’t see.