My boyfriend and I usually have a lot of foreplay and it feels very passionate for me, and I think he feels the same way too. But there was one time when he wasn’t mentally present in the moment and he lost his erection. Since then, he says he’s been scared it will happen again. Now, even after a lot of foreplay, when he tries to penetrate, he loses his erection. He also feels really anxious when we are sober because he says it’s very embarrassing for him when he can’t hold his erection, and that seems to make it worse.
Please be blunt with me. I’m very insecure about how I look. He keeps saying he’s obsessed with me and attracted to me, but this still keeps happening. I feel so embarrassed and unattractive that my boyfriend loses his erection with me.
The strange thing is that this never happens when we’re high. When we have weed, he lasts a long time, close to 45 minutes, and everything feels normal and connected. The past two times we tried sober, it happened again.
I’m really concerned and it’s affecting my confidence. I need honest opinions.