Me 29F and my boyfriend 28M have been dating for 7 months. We are both very sexual individuals. I’m newer to sex, and he’s not so new as he’s been with quite a lot of women. I enjoy the intimacy we have together, but because I’m kinda new to this, I feel extremely connected to every person I am intimate with. It’s a lot, and I’m happy to do it, but it just makes me very clingy and needy, and every single time, like I literally want to live in his skin afterwards, which I guess isn’t a problem, but my bf is very busy and can’t always make a bunch of time for me, so it makes me feel neglected a bit. I’ve expressed these needs to him, and he’s explained to me that he’s very busy and gives me all the time that he can, which is very true; he has a very demanding job, so I understand. It’s just I feel like I have to mentally prepare every time we are intimate with each other, and it takes a lot out of me recovering from it. Especially since I barely talk to see him during the week, so for example, if we are intimate on Sunday, I’ll barely talk to him until the following Friday because the weekends are when we have the most time for each other . Sometimes I don’t want to go through all of that. I get anxious throughout the day not hearing from him. I know he can’t help it because of his job, so I try to be as understanding as possible. The other night, my bf asked me to come over, and I agreed, of course, but told him upfront that I don’t want to do anything sexual with him that night. I even texted him beforehand as a courtesy. He told me that he’s not okay with me withholding sex from him. I told him I’m not trying to withhold sex; I just am not feeling up to it tonight, and he told me that he thinks it’s manipulative when I tell him no to sex and that I’m trying to withhold it to get an emotional reaction out of him . Needless to say, we didn’t hang out that night 😔. I told him when he says stuff like that, it makes me feel like he only cares about one thing, and he told me it’s manipulative to even say stuff like that to him. for saying no ? How can I compromise here so neither of us feel like we’re being manipulated