Hi everyone, I’m looking for some outside perspective because I’m feeling really confused and hurt.
A week ago today, my fiancé got very upset because I liked an Instagram post. It was a video of a girl at a Bad Bunny concert (I’m a fan of his), and the caption said something like “I shaved my entire body just in case.” I honestly thought it was funny and liked it without thinking much of it. There was no intention behind it ..I wasn’t trying to be inappropriate.
When he brought it up, I understood why it made him uncomfortable and I apologized right away.
For the first few days after, he barely spoke to me and we stayed in separate rooms most of the day. Three days later, I tried to bring it up calmly to talk it through, but the argument actually got worse.
During that fight, I brought up what felt like double standards. A few months ago, he had sent a picture of t*ts in a group chat with his friends and then told me he wont stop doing it cause its only a boys chat but he'll ensure that I'm not around, which really bothered me at the time but I eventually chose to forgive and move on. When I mentioned this, he said I can’t compare the two situations and got very angry that I brought it up. (I hate bringing up past situations but again it's hard not too)
He then told me our relationship is now “damaged,” that he can never look at me the same, and that I’m basically not trustworthy anymore.. all over liking that Instagram post.
Since then, he’s completely shut me out again. We barely talk, stay in separate rooms all day, and when I try small gestures like ordering food for us, he’ll grab it without saying thank you and go back into his office.
I understand that liking the post upset him, and I owned that and apologized. But a full week of silence, being told the relationship is damaged, and being treated coldly feels extreme to me.
***Lets just say I did not bring up the boob story here on reddit*** did I fuck up really bad with the post?
At this point I’m starting to wonder if this is unhealthy or even emotional manipulation.
Has anyone experienced something like this?
Is this kind of reaction normal, or does this sound excessive/unhealthy?
Any advice would be appreciated.