I am 20 (f) and I’m turned on by this very specific thing. It’s when a man (usually a father figure or boyfriend) yells at me to the point that I’m in tears and then apologizes sincerely. The yelling itself doesn’t turn me on but having him apologizing and being sweet to me afterwards does. Especially that moment of realization of “oh shit, I fucked up I’m so sorry” really gets me. But the yelling and anger is absolutely necessary for me to feel turned on in the end. Like apologizing for anything else doesn’t have the same effect at all.
I did have an absent father growing up and he often yelled at me, making me feel inferior without ever comforting me. I’ve never had weird feelings towards my father but I think these two things are probably related.
I’d really appreciate it if anyone knows anything about this and can share. I’d like to learn more about it and explore different communities with people who have the same kink if there are any. I’m really just trying to understand myself so I can have a healthy sex life in the future.