I (29 F) recently got back together with a guy (28M) who I briefly was talking to a while ago. We had only hung out twice. Things had ended with me ending things due to him being pushy with sexual boundaries and him begging me to stay but I said no. I’ve been thinking about him a lot and he texted me a couple weeks ago asking to talk.
We talked that night and I wouldn’t go sleep over his house but he came over for a few minutes just to see me before he left for a trip. He kissed me and kept asking if I missed him and told me he loved me and wanted me to say it back. I said we don’t know each other enough.
I hung out with him at his house a few days ago. He ignored me the first 45 minutes I was there because he was on the phone even though that’s what time he told me to come over. We then just ended up making out and talking. He kept saying how bad he wanted to touch me sexually but that he won’t because he doesn’t want to get blocked by me again.
During this time he said he feels a connection with me and kept saying he loved me and wants to have kids with me. I kept stating reality about how he doesn’t even know me and that I don’t want kids. He begged me to sleep over but I didn’t and said I could Thursday night.
He said he wants a relationship but also said that he’s a fuck boy and doesn’t take anything serious and has commitment issues. He won’t plan any dates and everything is on his terms. He also kept asking me if I was going to stay with him for a long time and had me promise not to leave him. So I’m getting very conflicting messages.
So I was supposed to sleep over yesterday and I heard nothing from him at all yesterday and still haven’t heard anything today. I don’t understand how he can go from love bombing me to completely blowing me off after begging to be with me.
I feel really hurt and know I should walk away but I keep getting pulled in by his words and guilt tripping. How do I break free of this? I’m just so confused on what to do.