Men over 30: what’s one piece of advice you’d give to men in their 20s?
January 30, 2026
If you could go back and tell your 20-year-old self just one thing, what would it be?
28 comments
Quit drinking, find a good therapist, just invest everything into an s&p 500 based mutual fund. Exercise and proper diet along with hydration are the answer to everything so always prioritize that but do it efficiently because otherwise life is just not worth living.
Don’t overlook red flags just because she’s super hot. Love is patient, get to know someone over time and earn trust if you want to end up with the right one.
Start lifting weights if you don’t already. Consistently
The most important skill you can develop is a good nose for when someone is trying to sell you something.
Also, however much water you’re drinking and however much sleep you’re getting, get more of both.
Getting education or preparing for a career and sacrificing during your 20s is completely worth it
Doctor chiming in. Turning 42 this year.
It was really hard in the moment thinking I was missing out on everything but compared to most of my peers now I’m doing very well and the job security and money security make it beyond worth it
Watch your blood sugar. Diabetes is a slow death sentence.
Make time for your parents.
I’m 33, mom and dad are 68. We live a plane ride apart and I see them twice a year at best for a handful of days at a time. In fifteen years they’ll be in their early/mid 80s. At the current rate, I’ll get probably 30 more long weekend visits with them. In other words, about three months of time collectively.
You should strike out on your own, you shouldn’t be apologetic about carving your own life if that’s what you want. But you should be aware that the time you get with loved ones is finite especially once you leave home, and you should make the most of it.
Nobody you’ve ever tried to impress with self-destructive behavior will still be in your life in 10 years, but the consequences of said behavior will be.
Stop drinking. Invest time and effort in to the job and relationships you currently have.
Save 20 percent each month on retirement funds
The version of yourself in your 30s is the result of a decade of cumulative life choices as an adult. Act accordingly
Don’t worry. It gets worse.
Have fun in your 20’s, if you want to start a business start it now before you have any commitments. This is the time in your life when you will have the freedom and flexibility to try things.
Pay attention to red flags and don’t ignore them.
Yes, she is hot. Yes, she will also ruin your life.
Never eat the yellow snow.
How do you know if you’re chasing the wrong woman?
You’re chasing her.
Hustle and grind is no way to live. Nor is spending the prime of your life looking at a screen any longer than necessary.
Don’t get into a relationship with a woman who is 10+ years older. By all means have casual fun but you are both at very different stages in your life.
Compounding is incredibly powerful, in matters of finance and health & fitness. That works for you or against you.
If you neglect exercise and nutrition, you’ll experience years of cumulative negative inputs. You’ll wind up with a weak, uncomfortable and/or unhealthy body, discomfort or outright pain, and physical limitation to your ability to enjoy life. If you rack up debt, you’ll be battling both inflation and interest on debt (there are smart uses of debt, be very discerning), which will make it very hard to build.
If you show up for workouts and take care of your nutrition, you’ll maximize your chances of having a strong, healthy body in the future, which enhances your ability to enjoy life for decades to come. If you invest wisely and live within your means, your money and financial security will grow.
Choose wisely.
Build better habits now. Get in shape. Don’t keep shitty people in your life.
Dying for something is easy- Living for something is hard.
Skip all the filler. One piece has too many episodes
Budget, hydrate, stretch
Drink as little alcohol as you can. None is best. Eat mostly whole, plant-based foods. Join a choir.
Stop thinking you understand the world. You don’t.
No one is coming to save you
No one loves you
Continue from there
Live in the present. Don’t stress yourself preparing for the future; it may not come.
Ease up on the 30 racks. Alcoholism is a bitch, and so is Maggie. Run.
28 comments
Quit drinking, find a good therapist, just invest everything into an s&p 500 based mutual fund. Exercise and proper diet along with hydration are the answer to everything so always prioritize that but do it efficiently because otherwise life is just not worth living.
Don’t overlook red flags just because she’s super hot. Love is patient, get to know someone over time and earn trust if you want to end up with the right one.
Start lifting weights if you don’t already. Consistently
The most important skill you can develop is a good nose for when someone is trying to sell you something.
Also, however much water you’re drinking and however much sleep you’re getting, get more of both.
Getting education or preparing for a career and sacrificing during your 20s is completely worth it
Doctor chiming in. Turning 42 this year.
It was really hard in the moment thinking I was missing out on everything but compared to most of my peers now I’m doing very well and the job security and money security make it beyond worth it
Watch your blood sugar. Diabetes is a slow death sentence.
Make time for your parents.
I’m 33, mom and dad are 68. We live a plane ride apart and I see them twice a year at best for a handful of days at a time. In fifteen years they’ll be in their early/mid 80s. At the current rate, I’ll get probably 30 more long weekend visits with them. In other words, about three months of time collectively.
You should strike out on your own, you shouldn’t be apologetic about carving your own life if that’s what you want. But you should be aware that the time you get with loved ones is finite especially once you leave home, and you should make the most of it.
Nobody you’ve ever tried to impress with self-destructive behavior will still be in your life in 10 years, but the consequences of said behavior will be.
Stop drinking. Invest time and effort in to the job and relationships you currently have.
Save 20 percent each month on retirement funds
The version of yourself in your 30s is the result of a decade of cumulative life choices as an adult. Act accordingly
Don’t worry. It gets worse.
Have fun in your 20’s, if you want to start a business start it now before you have any commitments. This is the time in your life when you will have the freedom and flexibility to try things.
Pay attention to red flags and don’t ignore them.
Yes, she is hot. Yes, she will also ruin your life.
Never eat the yellow snow.
How do you know if you’re chasing the wrong woman?
You’re chasing her.
Hustle and grind is no way to live. Nor is spending the prime of your life looking at a screen any longer than necessary.
Don’t get into a relationship with a woman who is 10+ years older. By all means have casual fun but you are both at very different stages in your life.
Compounding is incredibly powerful, in matters of finance and health & fitness. That works for you or against you.
If you neglect exercise and nutrition, you’ll experience years of cumulative negative inputs. You’ll wind up with a weak, uncomfortable and/or unhealthy body, discomfort or outright pain, and physical limitation to your ability to enjoy life. If you rack up debt, you’ll be battling both inflation and interest on debt (there are smart uses of debt, be very discerning), which will make it very hard to build.
If you show up for workouts and take care of your nutrition, you’ll maximize your chances of having a strong, healthy body in the future, which enhances your ability to enjoy life for decades to come. If you invest wisely and live within your means, your money and financial security will grow.
Choose wisely.
Build better habits now. Get in shape. Don’t keep shitty people in your life.
Dying for something is easy- Living for something is hard.
Skip all the filler. One piece has too many episodes
Budget, hydrate, stretch
Drink as little alcohol as you can. None is best. Eat mostly whole, plant-based foods. Join a choir.
Stop thinking you understand the world. You don’t.
No one is coming to save you
No one loves you
Continue from there
Live in the present. Don’t stress yourself preparing for the future; it may not come.
Ease up on the 30 racks. Alcoholism is a bitch, and so is Maggie. Run.