I (22f) matched with this guy (20m) about 2 months ago. We started texting and he was super great and all the things. I haven’t been in a relationship for about 2 years. I wasn’t really looking to be in one. I ended up ending it with him after about a week and a half because i didn’t like some of the things he said (i blew it wayy out of proportion because it was feeling real). We ended up matching on a different app and he said “it must be a sign”. I haven’t felt this giddy about a guy since high school. He makes me laugh and says all the right things. We had talks about exes and he mentioned that he had a crazy one and he shared a lot of trauma that they both went through with each other. Fast forward to now. We have hung out every other day, we go on dates, we have real talks. Everything seemed so good. Friday he was supposed to come over. He came and told me to come outside. I got in his car and he told me his ex texted him and he is still in love with her. That was it and i left. We unadded each other on everything. Today (3 days later) he texted me and told me that it didn’t work out and he was sorry. I told him i hoped it was worth it and he said it wasn’t and apologized again. A few hours later he texted again and asked if he could explain more. I said yes. He went on to tell me about his mental state, how he associated her with happier times because that was the last time he wasn’t depressed, and how much he regrets it.
Now my issue. I am a forgiver. I know that about myself. I do not think he did any of this to hurt me. I think he is just stuck in a crappy cycle with a crappy ex. We talked a lot. I told him that i think he needs to go and get help and he is considering. I told him if anything were to ever happen again, it would take a long time. He agreed. There is obvious things he needs to get over with his ex. He told me their talk ended good and it was closure. He says he realizes they aren’t meant to be. I know that takes time to move on from.
Am i an idiot for being open to the idea of potentially talking to him again? I am being very genuine when i say it would take time.