So to preface I’ve never been in a relationship before. Be nice 🥺
This guy had been liking my ig stories all of the time, liking my posts 30 seconds after I post them, and initiating convo with me by sending me reels and responding to my ig stories. He did this for like 1.5 months. At first I treated it as a casual thing, and was cautious bc I felt like he was just gonna be like the other guys that just wanted a little attention from a woman.
Then he wanted to meet up in December, and I was down. We still haven’t gotten around to it bc we are both busy, but it was also cuz up until mid January, I still wasn’t fully interested.
Then we get to mid January, he kept initiating contact and just being flirty with me, so I thought yk what, I’m gonna put in more effort and see what happens. And it was good for a little bit. He would also want to help me on projects I was working on, give me advice on websites to find cheap tickets, clothes, and whatever, kind of having that “provider” energy of just wanting to help me out, and it felt genuine.
I confessed to him last week that I liked him, just so we were both on the same page. He said he liked me as a friend for right now, and bc of timing he just wasn’t ready for a relationship. Definitely surprised me bc originally he seemed SO interested in me. I tried being as clear as possible and I guess a green flag is that he never got mad at me and was super supportive of anything I said to him. I got kind of frustrated at him again a few days after (today actually) bc after I confessed to him, I just kept getting mixed signals from him. For ex, when I wanted to call him after I confessed, he agreed, and he still liked my ig stories super fast after I posted etc.
Up until today, he never explicitly said if he liked me or not. I tried talking things out again today and it just made me a bit upset. He kept saying he just wants to keep it chill and then explictly said “I’m not trying to fuck” 😭 and while he never got mad, he was kinda just softly saying that maybe I wasn’t attractive to him and maybe he just liked the female attention. Idk, it just hurts, it makes me feel like I’m not “woman” enough when I fucking know that is not true… but yeah. It just sucks. I know I can be such an overthinker and perfectionist, and trust me, I’ve put in SO MUCH work to get better at it. I finally told him today that I will keep my distance from him for rn, and he responds by saying “your peace comes before everything” which just made me fall in love with him all over again. 😭
I think he is just a genuine nice guy and it just happened that he didn’t realize he was crossing a line with that?? I guess??
And ik some of yall will just give me a blunt answer, but be nice 🥺🥺 I genuinely want the best for him and ik he also does for me. But it just sucks I’m in this limbo, and I prob shld just move on