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Seeing all these stories it’s crazy how people is finding someone somehow yet I can’t lol 😂
Having a bit of an aww moment right now. 🥹
I moved to the U.S. about a year and a half ago and, after a breakup about eight months ago, found myself having to rebuild my social circle from scratch in a place where people are a bit more reserved than I was used to. It wasn’t easy, and there was a stretch where I felt very lonely.
I started hanging out with a group of girls, and one of them in particular had reservations about me at first. We’re total opposites, and she’s even admitted later that she felt unsure about me in the beginning. Over time, though, that shifted. She went from tolerating me to sending me memes daily, inviting me to things one-on-one, and now we’re even traveling together with the group in a few months.
Along the way, I also met one amazing girl who’s become my closest friend here. We’re equally crazy 😂 and over the past year and a half we’ve grown incredibly close.
I’ve been sick the past couple of days, and that same girl from the group checked in on me and brought me a few things to help me feel better. It might sound small, but being so far away from the people closest to me, moments like that really hit differently.
Feeling incredibly grateful for the amazing people I keep meeting 🤍
I got dumped a week ago today. I feel a bit better. Back on the apps but I’m struggling to find a man of substance here in OH.
I hate being sick. My throat is so painful it hurts to drink water and I alternate between having ok energy and being fatigued. My bf is coming over later to cuddle and pamper me. I’ve been able to get through a lot on my own just fine, but sure is nice to have him around 🥰
Well, had a second date this evening. It went well I think and a third date is planned. Still feel “new” to dating sometimes since I did not date much in my 20s (because of work schedule and other things). I might just be at risk of getting in my own way of something good.
M33, split from LTR of 8 years. All my friends moved on after I went off the grid to save my relationshit, so I’m socially homeless now.
It seems during my nightmare LTR I completely forgot how to socialize as a human, my brain has totally smoothed over due to being in permanent survival mode.
This may seem utterly nonsensical, but how do I make friends again? Where do I meet people? How do I talk to them? I’m literally going insane from gym/work/home, gym/work/home, gym/work/home, and then every single weekend totally isolated and alone, and even then my weekends are dedicated to getting errands done I can’t do during the weekday.
I’ve thought about going out to clubs or bars by myself but how pathetic. Nor can I justify the time and cost involved. I also work evenings so the last thing I want to do after work is go out anyway.
In short, I forgot how to human 🙁
I didn’t go to bed until 5am on a work night cos fetlife man and I slept together for the first time 🤣
I’m so tired, but thankful I WFH for the rest of the week.
I’d be grateful for any input!
After five months of dating, I friendzoned a woman I met on a dating app. In the last months, my feelings shifted, and we grew closer and began spending time together regularly and texting every 2-3 days incl. when on trips. A couple of months ago, work got busy and I pulled back, though I apologized and said my pull back would be temporary. She still reached out regularly and expressed how much she enjoys our time together.
During a recent three week trip, I replied on arrival and sent a Happy New Year message, which she all responded to enthusiastically. I then didn’t text for two weeks, and now she hasn’t replied in over two weeks, which is unusual for her.
What would you do in my situation? How should I interpret her silence after she’s usually so responsive?
One of the matches that I was excited about indirectly said that we live too far from each other. Fair.
Then he asked if we can still flirt.
*sigh*
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When you people do dinner dates do you offer a few different choices or do you just pick a spot?
We’re doing sushi second date so not sure if I should say I known these x,y,z spots which one do you like, or just say we’re going to x at 7?
Well, things felt like they WERE going well in my new city. Unfortunately, my house in my old city had a pipe burst and water dripped from ceiling to basement, flooding my basement.
So gonna have to tell all my first dates bye and put dating on pause for a while.
First makeout session in over a year. That was hot. I’m so glad there are people out there that I want and they want me.
My ex randomly reached out to me via text last week for some small talk and I let the conversation die out by not responding and just hearting one of his messages. Anyway, he reached out again yesterday to mention something unfortunate that happened to him and I also let that conversation die out instead of continuing it because while I still care about him, I don’t care to entertain him or have him in my life anymore. I can’t believe that I was so sad over this dude last year lol. Knowing this, I feel a little more secure in myself and this current relationship I’m in. I mean, I like the current guy I’m seeing more than I ever did my ex, but if we somehow broke up, I know I probably won’t be sad for that long before moving on, and that makes me feel safer inside.
I’ve known this from the beginning. But, I’ll say it loud and clear for those who don’t understand. I’ve know from the start my relationship has had a time limit. I’ve posted that in many posts about my relationship here on Reddit.
And the limit is nearing after 4 years. He’s perfect in so many ways and has taught me so much. I love him deeply. But, love is not enough. We’ve always known we wanted different things.
And so he is not perfect. I value integration and becoming a real family. It’s been fun living 2 separate lives, one weekday Mom, one weekend girlfriend, but as I said, I’ve always known it’s not sustainable.
I know dating parents on here is controversial, but it should be even more so than it is. My ex’s girlfriend has jumped in since day 1 as if my child were her own, and I couldn’t ask for a better co-parent, I love her, truly, and I tell her all the time. Heck, I’d marry her if my ex wouldn’t lol. Why would I settle for less in an actual partner of my own?
I got my first match, i’ve been on hinge, bumble, and tinder this time around since probably November. We exchanged some messages and things sounded like they were going great. Felt a great vibe, and then she just disappeared unmatched gone. Such a fucking gut punch. What the fuck happened? I’m just a worthless unlovable fucking sub human.
What have you guys done in the past after having ‘no luck’ with OLD? No luck meaning, I can’t seem to find anybody that catches my eye, the inbound likes aren’t for me – the handful of likes i’ve sent out have probable swiped no on me.
Focus on myself for a while? Move cities? Do more social things? I keep wondering if I should lower my standards but that just feels so sad.
I’m really getting more and more anxious by the fact that everyone I know has an partner or are even married. But the thing that fucks with me even more is that I I feel like I’m unworthy of love or attention from anyone. I’m scared to even approach an woman if it seems like shes more “successfull” or has an higher education.
All of that because I am currently on an min wage job, without an car license (working on it) and without an HS diploma (will do one, but don’t know in what field).
The lack of intimacy is killing me and people are constantly pestering me about “when I’m getting married or getting an gf,…”.
Not from the US though.
Anyone else finding it impossible to get to the date stage. Hundreds of matches… several conversations going but they always die out before getting to an actual date.
I started the year wanting to go on many dates as I know it’s very hard to meet someone you click with in person but with this speed it will take me 10 years to meet anyone.
(I also live abroad for work and not too good at the local language yet which puts off about 80% and also it seems many of the men here are quite passive maybe wanting to be pursued or something which is a huge turn off for me, maybe why we are not getting anywhere haha but just not for me)
I’ve recently become interested in a girl for the first time in about ten years.
Part of the reason I’m nervous about asking her is that I assume if she says no it’ll be just long until I next meet someone I like.
Not sure why I’m (36f, androgynous) having such bad luck dating in the bay area. I’m poly and typically attracted to fems, and I don’t date anyone under 30. I am considered “out-of-this-world” attractive according to my friends. Past partners and people I’ve dated have told me this as well. I can approach the hottest person at any given party and get a date. What happens next is what’s confusing and is a pattern now. I go out on a first date, it goes well, sometimes there are second dates, sometimes not. Sex usually happens on the second date, if not the first. After a few dates at most, I get the inevitable and vague breakup text. I have continued being friends and hang out regularly with several people I’ve dated, so it can’t be that they don’t like my company. I only date poly people to avoid misunderstandings and unrealistic expectations. I’m a great kisser and have been told I’m great in bed. I’m charismatic, outgoing, funny, successful, communicative, and attentive. I’m curious about the people I date and I ask lots of questions. I am flirtatious, and have no problem clearly expressing sexual interest. What could possibly be causing my failure to connect with someone for longer than a few dates?
Yung crush ko na puro puso lang lagi sa posts and stories ang alam. Consistent din bumati every bday ko. Alam kong crush n’ya ako, basta alam ko hahahahah Kuya namannnn, ituloy tuloy mo na plsssss.
Probably just a sign of me still being burnt out on OLD, but do you ever get to the place where everyone just seems dull?
Like i know thats not the case, and if I was talking to the person in real life I could get some info about something cool they do/did, but everything on dating profiles at best is surface level liking of some media which ive already had 100s of convos about(dang Parks and Rec is better than the Office?!?! Thats cray cray) , or at worst its low effort comments that no one in there right mind could work with(dang you are looking for someone thats honest? Thats so weird and quirked up of you).
I just want someone who’s willing to say weird stuff on their profile, that actually wants to also go out and meet strangers from the internet. Which honestly saying that out loud I get why thats not the case, but still.
I don’t really like ghosting, even when it’s deserved, so I replied to Mr Hates Texting and said I can’t do this weekend sorry (it was responding to a specific question).
27 hours later and no response, so maybe I’m in the clear and it’s done now??
OK what is up with random capitalization on dating profiles? “I value Communication, love Spontaneous adventures, and Have new socks for Every Occasion!!” Are you German?? I never see this anywhere else on the internet, it’s so weird.
Condoms that expire june 2030. When were these purchased?
Snowstorm here and I keep inviting a guy to my place. He prefers to pick me up and drop me off. Like this perfect mix of not willing to pay for uber but also comfortable at his own place.
Beggars cannot be choosers, man. I fear for my general safety the more he keeps asking to pick me up
I just recently started lightly putting myself out there as I’m waiting for my divorce to finalize. I haven’t been on a date in over 13 years and haven’t tried to meet anyone during that time.
I thought I’d braced myself for some of the people on the apps and decided to do only [match.com](http://match.com) as that was a higher tier one forever ago. I am FLOORED at how many creeps are reaching out and not even trying to hide how gross they are. Like you could be my dad. Why are you messaging me that you LIKE MY SKIN??? wtaf
Also, I hated AI before putting my toe into the dating pool but I REALLY abhor it now. I’m so sorry, you do not have a 12 pack. It’s pretty obvious this is AI. Own it and laugh or take the pic down but don’t try to tell me it’s real. X-X
Can anyone speak to the dating scene in Denver? I work remote and can move anywhere in the US, I need a change. That or Seattle maybe