For context, we have been together for 2 years, and this is the most serious relationship that both of us have been in. I love every other part about him very much, except for the sex.
We never do much foreplay, but we did have more during the beginning of our relationship. He will usually finger me for a few seconds, which feels good. Occasionally he’ll do it for longer, which I like, but it doesn’t happen often. He’s never gone down on me. The sex now is, for lack of a better term, bad. It’s only ever a couple of minutes long, the same two positions, in the same order. I never even come close to finishing, but I really don’t know what the feels like because I never have had an orgasm at all.
I told him once or twice that I did finish in the beginning of our relationship when he asked, but later admitted that I lied when I was drunk, and he was pretty offended. And we haven’t spoke about it since. Our dynamic is not one where I would bring it up, but if he asked, I would tell him that I have never. After he finishes, I always get up quickly and put on my clothes as a way for him to try to get the hint, but it doesn’t work.
I have considered not having sex with him until he asks why not, and then I would tell him, but I always give in. Having him focus on me too much during sex feels weird to me as well. I would be really grateful for advice on how to bring this up to him. I want to communicate with him, I am just not sure how to go about it. Please don’t leave any comments telling me to break up with him, because I will not.
TLDR; boyfriend of 2 years has never made me finish.