We are highschool sweet hearts, and after 4 years of dating, have moved in together. It has been going amazingly considering I hear everyone say that the first year is the hardest. However, an issue that's popped up a few times over our relationship is becoming increasingly difficult for me to ignore. Whenever I am upset, confused, hurt, or frusterated, he has no idea how to respond. If he can't fix whatever is wrong immediately, he will just remove himself from me. A few years ago, I got crushing news that my grandpa had died (he was the only one I ever had). My bf was there when I got the call and comforted me, but after that, he essentially ghosted me for a week and didn't ask me how I was before or after the funeral or come to see me. This was so strange and hurtful because we are incredibly close, he is my best friend as well as my partner. He apologized after a while and said he just needed space. It took me a while to get over that, and I am still hurt, but I love him and in general things are good with us. Today I was feeling upset about something that fell through that I was really looking forward to. He texted me saying he was sorry about my disappointment and reassured me of future opportunities, but when he came home and saw that I wasn't already fine, I could tell he got upset. He brought me a sweet to make me feel better, but when it didn't fix how I was feeling, I just watched him get increasingly frustrated with me. Then he made a comment about how I should remember that I'm probably just feeling hormonal (just what every woman wants to hear) and another comment asking about what he can do to "get me through it faster", like why cant I just be? obviously if I could just stop feeling an unpleasant way I would? it made me shut down because I didn't feel safe expressing myself around him anymore. I believe in proper communication, so I told him that comment invalidated how I was feeling, making him more frusturated. I already feel like too much for everyone all the time, so watching him actively get frusturated at my emotions is hard every time. I tried explaining that he doesnt have to fix anything at all, just be with me so the burden isnt as heavy, but thats what he cant do. Any advice?