I've been reflecting on this for some time, uncertain whether I should share it, but I've come to realize that speaking one's truth is often the only path to clarity and healing never out of spite, but as a means of growth. My ex and I were together for several years. Throughout our relationship, she spoke with great passion about her faith, her values, and the importance of loyalty and integrity. She often discussed waiting on God, living as a devoted Christian, and doing things the right way. Despite this, she cheated on me while we were still in a committed relationship.
In April, she began communicating with someone else, though she never disclosed this to me. When she ended our relationship in July, I was blindsided. She told me it was merely a break, that we would have time to figure things out and eventually reconcile. It wasn't until later that I learned she had met someone on a dating app and had been in contact with him while we were still together. On the day she ended things, she revealed that this man had been pushing her to pursue a relationship with him, which ultimately led to her decision to break up with me and pursue him instead. The relationship we shared meant everything to me, and the pain of this betrayal is difficult to put into words. The hurt was not just in the breakup itself, but in how everything unfolded the lies, the deceit, and the emotional investment she had already made in someone else while I was still trying to salvage what we had.
What has been most difficult to accept is how someone who so strongly professed faith, loyalty, and integrity could act in such stark contradiction to those values. This isn't about assigning blame or criticizing anyone; it's about acknowledging that words are easy to speak, but actions reveal the truth. If someone's actions do not align with their words, it is crucial to trust the truth that is evident in their behavior. Character is defined not by promises, but by the choices we make.
If you find yourself in a situation where someone's words do not align with their actions, do not disregard the reality before you. If someone claims to be walking in faith but their life tells a different story, trust the truth that is right in front of you. I am still in the process of healing. You was my everything, and I do not take that lightly. Yet, through this experience, I have learned to trust myself more deeply and remain true to my own values. To anyone who may be going through something similar, know that the truth always comes to light. i’m heartbroken how can someone do this to another human being.
The guy she's is seeing has narcissistic traits. He gets easily angry and dramatic, often seeking constant validation, and his behavior tends to be immature.