Hello everyone,
I’m in a bit of a bind here. I am dating two women but both of them seem to enjoy intensity and then become avoidant afterwards.
One is a mom, works 3 jobs and is finalising a divorce. We both like each other but she’s become quite avoidant lately. No texting (texted profusely before) and no in person meet ups for over a week. She’s doing well financially but it’s busy burning her out and refuses help. Say’s she just wants peace and a man that can communicate and be honest. Problem is when she withdraws, she basically ghosts me. On one occasion, a whole day after an intense night before. She’s busy, I get it. At the same time, how long does it really take to text back?
Second one is a bit younger, chaotic as hell. But fun. We both like each other too, but she also pulled away in the past. She’s recently started talking to me again, claimed to have changed. Going through therapy at the moment and said she realised that she has a bad habit of pushing good people away. She’s still figuring out her financial situation but has a solid grasp of where she wants to go in life. She wants a man that will support her (financially and emotionally). Says she doesn’t want to be with someone who isn’t financially stable (fair expectation) but she’s also willing to build with the right person.
Some of you might say I sound like a clown for dating two women at the same time, but honestly, I see potential in both. At the same time though, I can only pour so much energy into someone who treats me this way. I can handle it. But not forever.
Any advice?