Really need help as a 25yr man dealing with a 30yrs old single mom. So here at work, I used to mess with this one single mom, she would bring me lunch, I would bring her coffee, daily. Just to show my appreciation. Things gotten rough because she is very cold, doesn’t really communicate about how/what she feels and gives me mixed feelings. Now we kinda fell off, but here at work she flits with me heavy, pulls me towards her for a kiss, which we do, holds my hand when we get the chance. And it’s all lovey dovey here at work. But outside of work? She doesn’t give a care in the world to send me a message, nothing. 0. And I do the same because, first I’m not going to be begging. I just want to understand why she’s like this at work, but once getting out, it’s cold turkey. I tried to try and speak to her about but she shrugs it off and doesn’t really know what to say.. help?


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  2. Sounds like she is using you to kill boredom at work, but doesn’t want much outside of it. Shes already shown she doesn’t want to communicate clearly about it, so you gotta decide what you want out of the situation and are willing to deal with. You can enjoy the work fling and accept things on her terms. You can calmly and tactfully keep trying to ask her what she actually wants, but this may risk stopping the fun at work. You can stop engaging at work and see how she responds. It all depends on what you want to keep from this and if you want to risk losing the current fun.

  3. She’s single for a reason.

    Why pursue this? She’s already messing with your head. Being alone is not that bad.

  5. She most likely doesn’t have time to speak to you after work because her attention is spent taking care of her child.

  6. Gray area situationship.

    She likes the thrill. She doesn’t like you. She’s probably just bored and needs some of her needs fulfilled.

  8. >…here at work she flits with me heavy, pulls me towards her for a kiss, which we do, holds my hand when we get the chance…

    Wow! Where do you work?😱

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