My boyfriend constantly blames me. He constantly thinks I'm lying to him and cheating on him. Even when I give him my phone number, he says I deliberately set things up to make things work. Recently, he drove with the window open for 20 minutes because he was hot, to which I said I was really cold, and he said I was faking it.
He also acts like I have to do everything for him right away: if he wants sex, he comes over, says something, and starts taking off his clothes. When I say I'm busy, studying, or just sick, he says, "Well, you're not passed out," or "You don't love me," "That's how you really feel about me," etc. He also says that if he's hungry, I should get up and start cooking for him. It doesn't matter what I'm doing. He often wakes up and says he's hungry, waking me up, even though I could have slept 5 or 6 hours. To which he says 6 hours is enough.
I recently got sick with a high fever and didn't notice his calls. He started saying I should apologize for not seeing them, even though I was so lethargic I wasn't paying attention. I had a similar situation with my father; he called, but I didn't answer, and when I explained I was sick and sleeping, he didn't press for an apology. When I asked him why he wasn't worried about my illness, he said he was worried about other things, like earning enough to pay for our housing and finances.
The money issue is a separate issue altogether. He said he doesn't think I should show my bad mood and tears, as that's a reflection of my negative emotions and could affect his income. I should think about that because he can give me money, and he's confident he'll be rich, but he doesn't think I can earn as much as he can give me. Therefore, I should do what he likes for him. So when I feel sluggish during sex because I'm tired, he says I just don't want to be intimate with him because I don't love him. Sometimes we do things I enjoy, but I feel like he does them reluctantly and for my sake, for which I'm grateful.
I've tried talking to him, but he thinks I blame him for everything, since he's trying to earn money for an apartment and works nights. And he says I don't appreciate him. I've tried breaking up because there's probably no other way out, but I don't want to. He says I betrayed him.
Please give me some advice. I need an outside perspective. Can you give me some advice?