Genuine question because I feel like I’m losing my grip on reality a little.
I’m 25. I’ve done the “normal” Instagram DM thing for years.
You know the routine:
“hey”
story replies
light jokes
not being creepy
not double texting
not oversharing
And honestly… it feels like talking to a wall most of the time.
So I tried something different. Not to be edgy, not to go viral. Just because I was bored of pretending the normal way works.
I sent a boyfriend CV as a first message.
Like a real one.
Age, zodiac sign, strengths, red flags, references.
I even attached it as a PDF and wrote a fake professional email like I was applying for a job.
Before anyone says it: yes, I know it’s weird.
That’s kind of the point.
What I’m confused about is this:
People always say “be original,” “stand out,” “don’t just say hey.”
So when someone actually does something different, suddenly it’s “too much” or “try-hard”?
I’m not saying this is the right move.
I’m not saying it’s smart.
I’m genuinely asking:
Is this actually worse than sending the same low-effort messages everyone complains about?
Or are we just pretending we want originality when we really don’t?
Curious what people think, especially women.