Hi everyone.
About 5 years ago, I (35 female) came out of a long relationship with my ex-boyfriend. I swore to myself to never be in a romantic relationship again.
At first it was amazing. I reconnected with old friends, met new friends at work, spent more time with my family and found a cute apartment.
But about one year ago I started to miss sex. I started online dating with just the intention to meet people for sexual reasons. It was great. For emotional connection I had my friends, my family and my dog – and for sexual desires I used the men I found on the dating app.
But in September 2025 I met THIS guy (36 male). The sex was incredible. But of course I told him in the beginning, how I just wanted sex and nothing else. We met every other week and always had a good time. But after time went bye, he started asking, if I wanted to have dinner with him or go watch a movie. But I always denied and told him again and again I just wanted sex.
But since a few weeks something in me has changed. After we finished I started staying a little bit longer. We started talking about different things… turns out, we share some interests and he is a really cool guy! He is funny and smart and I really started to enjoy talking to him. We also started sending messages through the day and I am catching myself smiling, whenever I see a message from him.
I guess I am in love?
But how can I tell it to him, after I told him I just wanted sex? I am afraid he doesn’t want a romantic relationship?