I’m sharing this experience for awareness and safety around online dating.
I matched with a guy on Hinge and met him once last week. During the meeting, I didn’t feel comfortable with the vibe, and at one point he tried to hold my wrist, which made me uneasy. I calmly asked to end the meeting early, and he dropped me home.
Later, I clearly communicated on Instagram that I wasn’t comfortable and wasn’t interested in continuing. After this rejection, he turned on disappearing messages and offered to pay my PG rent if I became his girlfriend. When I declined and stated that I earn enough to manage my own expenses, he sent an unsolicited and sexually explicit message.
I took a screenshot of the conversation as soon as the message appeared. Immediately after that, he removed me from both his Instagram profile and Hinge.
This post is not meant to shame anyone, but to highlight how some people respond to rejection by crossing boundaries, physically and digitally. Using disappearing messages, sending explicit sexual content after a clear “no,” and then removing someone once evidence is taken are serious red flags.
Online dating requires trust, consent, and respect for boundaries. I’m sharing this purely for awareness so people stay alert, document such behavior, and prioritize their safety.
Note: All identifying information has been removed. Screenshot shared only for awareness! Also share your thoughts.