Last weekend, this guy (25M) invited me (22F) to an event he was a part of. We had only talked through Instagram DMs because he lives in my home state and was looking to move to my city. I haven't been dating because I am happy being single and wasn't expecting much from it. I went, and he is much more charming and attractive than I expected. We ended up hooking up after the event. Unfortunately, the more we talked, the more I realized he checks all my boxes, and this has really thrown me for a loop.
He asked to take me out on a real date this past week. It was really nice except he would have to crash at mine because he lives 4 hours away. Of course, the inevitable happened once again. Now I am seriously regretting it. He told me that he likes me and opened up to me, but I've been hurt a lot in the past, so I'm having a really hard time trusting what he's saying if I'm being honest.
He wants to drive down to see me again on Monday. I tried to tell him I don't want a hookup and he said, "I understand, I would still like to see you." But if he is still flirting sexually over text, I can't tell if he's taking me seriously or not.
I don't know how to approach this situation. I feel like the effort he is putting in to see me despite the distance and spend money on me are green flags, but I am still overthinking and can't stop feeling like I screwed up any chance of a relationship by being easy. Is there any way to fix this or talk to him without scaring him off? Thanks.
EDIT: To be clear, I meant I don't want a hookup as in a hookup situation. I know that I can't un-have sex with him. I didn't tell him I don't want to have sex anymore.