hey there,

i'll be straight to point, i'm getting lazy it's been like 2 years since i haven't done cold approaches, two years ago when i did cold approchaes, I would say I was better I used to flirt and make them laugh was killing the awkwardness quickly was getting numbers 40% of the time I never went for instagram or snap ‘cause I would have get buried in it and as per my mature nature and the frame I set number was one thing, I always showed any girl I approached that I stay on my word I don’t back down, like if she says I can give you my instagram but not number then I would say no worries, I’m not on instagram it was lovely meeting you bye. Now after two years I don’t have issue with confidence or anything I can approach and talk to any stranger normally. Just saying my most of the pickups was never that successful to sex, it was only till date not even a kiss. Only one turned to sex.

Have userderstood lot of women psychology and human behavior by observing and watching some vides but I do wanna start reading books I have read Mystery’s How to get beautiful women in bed also the game by Neil Strauss but I forgot most of the part so will start it again I have Robert Greene’s books as well. And one audio book which is dark psychology by Jonathan mind, I have models as well. Okay enough ‘‘bout books I will start reading those soon. By soon I mean tomorrow. (Yes my tomorrow is TOMORROW)

So in 2024 from my guitar class I picked up one girl for casualcasual, we were just dating on second date we did the deed at my place. Then after third date on second day I said we need to stop this, you know why ‘cause I had gut feeling that she was seeing other guys, hate me all you want but my gut feeling saved me a lot of times, so when I called her we were on phone and there was big silence, I knew that she was with some guy, how I know ? I just knew like my gut feeling, so I said I don’t wanna continue and I stopped talking then it was a silence for like 20 seconds she didn’t said a word but then I said bye or somethin’ she said noooo at very low voice. Then I hung up, I have not received a single call or text after that for days then on second week I see her in guitar class and wan’t to talk I went there and she says the first thing can I have our pictures from our third date I said I deleted those then she goes can we be friends I said fuck no, after ending things I don’t talk to girls I go on date with. So that’s then. Then she stopped coming to class. Her friends told me before I even talked with her that don’t expect anythin’ serious from her ever keep her only for casualcasual that’s it. So after like 8 to 9 months I see her in cafe where me and my friend went to eat pizza there she was with one guy hiding her face from me. Anyways, I saw her.

Why am I yapping so much about her? Because she is hot as fuck, and I want to do the deed again with her. I really started liking her. She was cute and mature enough and always sought validation from me. At least that’s how she made me feel about her. But okay, it is what it is. And after that, I didn’t really meet any girl like her who I can do the deed with on a second date or kiss on a first date. So I was thinking of reaching out to her, but if I do that, then the whole dynamic changes. She gets the control, and I’ll be the one calling this time, asking if she wants to hang out or not. ‘Cause she's the one who took my number the first time and always chased me. Also I may have just find another one which is a nice girl maybe she’s 18 or 19 but I’m not sure if she has boyfriend or not but whenever I spoke with her it was a small talk as she’s in my guitar class and I don’t wanna fuck up so I didn’t talked a lot, I do wanna get to know her but she seems like my type.

Some context and answers to your questions:

  1. I’m 24. She’s 20 (currently).

  2. I stopped approaching because I stopped going out, focused on my business.

  3. I started going to guitar class again. It’s been 4 days.

  4. She’s modern and has standards.

  5. I’m an Indian tier 3 city dude.

This is everything that was in my mind: what should I do?


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