I (21M) have been been talking/dating this girl (22F) since early December and have gone out on at least 2 dates a week. Two important things to note is that we’re from different countries in a third country neither of us are from, and that she plans to stay here long term while I plan on being here at most a few years due to having an apreticeship Our dates mostly consist of going out to dinner/breakfast and long walks around the city where we talk the whole time, this is because she lives with her parents and while I do live alone, she hasn’t wanted to come back to my place at all yet (I’ve asked twice in the last couple weeks). I have a good time on these dates and we genuinely enjoy each other’s company. We kissed for the first time on our 5th or so date in mid December and we’ve made out for extended periods of time after dark in secluded parts of the city. We’re also very affectionate with each other physically and verbally, complimenting, holding hands, and kissing often. The problem I have is that I am someone who doesn’t typically wait this long to have sex, and while I haven’t pressed the issue directly, I have asked her over and don’t want to ask more/press it as to not make her uncomfortable. She does get really into it when we make out, and does certain things and acknowledges that she does them purely to tease me, but that is the extent to which we’ve gone. I know she’s had sex with previous parters because we’ve discussed it, she also understands that this relationship likely isn’t a super long term one as i eventually plan to leave so I doubt she wants a wait till marriage situation here. Im confused because she’s asked me to meet her parents this weekend (which is not something I’m typically comfortable with until much later), but also earlier this week said during a date that I have “a lot left” until we get more physical, it was an offhand joke she didn’t even think I understood (we speak different languages) but I did. What would you do in this situation? I want to talk to her about it but I don’t know if I should, any advice is appreciated.


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