Earlier this year I dated a guy who had just come out of a long relationship. He ended things saying he wasn’t in a place to date seriously.
A few months later I reached out and we went on a handful of really amazing dates. I sensed he still only wanted something casual, got anxious about it and ended things (he did probably only want casual but I didn’t give it time to unfold naturally and freaked us both out). I regretted that decision and, after some time passed, reached out again under the guise of something lighter, but he knows I really care for him.
In December we went on another great date and verbally agreed we’d see each other again in the new year. There wasn’t a specific plan, but it felt open-ended rather than finished.
About a week ago, I unexpectedly bumped into him while he was on a date. I didn’t realise at first and drunkenly called his name, which made the interaction awkward. Since then, he hasn’t followed up or reached out.
Now I’m feeling stuck. I know we don’t have aligned dating intentions long-term, but it also feels strange that it’s just… ended without any real close. I don’t know whether reaching out a week later would come across as pathetic, or
saying nothing is actually the more self-respecting option, even though I hate how unresolved it feels.
Any advice is welcome!