My wife and I have been married for 5 years, been together 10. As of late, I feel like our lives are totally enmeshed. I work an alternative job while she has quite a bit of flexibility in her schedule. This leads us to spend pretty much the whole afternoon and evening together and all day on the weekends. We have all the same friends. Lately, I’ve been trying to branch out more and do more stuff for me and have a friend or two that are more “my friends”. This has not gone over well and has caused a bit of friction in our marriage.
She wants to get more involved with my hobbies and when I try to do things just on my own or with “my friends” she gets visibly upset (even if she says she’s not) and I feel like shit for making her feel left out. Finally today, I kind of snapped and said I felt like she doesn’t let me have my own thing. This caused her to be very in her feelings and she’s now sleeping on the couch. Let me be clear, this woman is my best friend. I love spending time with her. But god damn after 10 years together all the time, I just want some space. How much time do yall spend together and how do you navigate togetherness vs separateness?